Valentines for last year’s lovers

You’re hot and you’re cold And scared of something I wish You would have told me – Roses are red Violets are blue There’s more to sex than missionary Just like there’s more to me than you – You were such a bad idea And such a good...

29.

I’ve been quiet over here. But it’s been a busy, humming quiet where the house is being cleared for something new. A couple weeks ago, I let my team go, and while I haven’t decided what’s next for thinkCHARM, whatever it is will be much more...
7 things I’m leaving behind in 2016

7 things I’m leaving behind in 2016

Since our request for a mulligan on 2016 has been denied by the Universe, there’s only one way through this mess, and that’s forward. I’ve learned so much about people this year. About myself. A lot of that has led me to tolerate a whole lot less...
23 lessons learned from 52 dates in 52 weeks

23 lessons learned from 52 dates in 52 weeks

1. If they are boring on the first date, it’s okay if you forget their name. There is nothing more abysmal than a boring first date. It’s worse than a bad first date because you don’t even have a funny story at the end of the night. 2. The number of...

Flying lessons

This summer has left me in wonder. After wrapping¬†up May with my first real heartbreak, I closed up a chapter of my life with yet another move. This time, I didn’t know where I wanted to land, but it didn’t matter so long as I wasn’t where I was at....

Zucchini bread and diesel dreams

Lately, I’ve been thinking a lot about what I was like as a kid. Something in the air yesterday struck me, and the crisp air sent me back to being seven in Merlin, OR and the old leather swing I fell asleep on, losing myself under madrona trees. Waking up to...

Reading ruins lives.

When I first read The Awakening, it was like the Joker confronting Batman with some poignant but unwanted truth. This dark, hidden part of me had a light shined on it in such a way that I could no longer run or hide from it. I cried for days. The women writers class I...

Making my own damn dreams come true

A few weeks ago, I was walking through Portland, headphones in. “Bright” by Echosmith came on. Ugh. A stinging reminder of a recent breakup, I impulsively ducked my head down to change it. (Why hadn’t I just removed it from this playlist already, for...
How to actually get a date on Tinder

How to actually get a date on Tinder

Gentlemen, you have it rough when it comes to online dating. I’m sure you’re already aware, but now that I’ve been on the receiving end of so many failed attempts at courtship, now I see exactly why your chances are so dire. Your fellow men have made...

Fucking multitudes

I wish I could find a nice, neat way to describe all of the changes and all of the feelings I’m experiencing right now. It’d be great to present a clean narrative with a cohesive story line, and maybe an edge towards an ending or a conclusion. But...